When love is there - but connection feels fragile
An affair shatters emotional safety, trust, and the shared story a couple believed they were living. This Affair Recovery Weekend Intensive is a highly structured, licensed therapist-guided intervention designed to help couples stabilize after betrayal, reduce retraumatization, and begin the work of rebuilding—whatever that ultimately looks like.
- This is not a retreat.
- This is not surface-level repair.
- This is not crisis containment alone.
This is deep, intentional, attachment-focused trauma work for couples who want a safe and ethical path forward—whether that path leads to reconciliation or clarity.
Participation requires a consultation to ensure this intensive is an appropriate clinical fit.
This is a private intensive for one couple at a time. There is no group sharing with other couples.
Who This Intensive Is For
This weekend is designed for couples who:
Are reeling from an affair, infidelity, or significant relational betrayal
Feel stuck in cycles of questioning, defensiveness, emotional shutdown, or volatility
Want guidance through disclosure and accountability without causing further harm
Are motivated to engage in difficult emotional work within a contained therapeutic environment
Are currently in, or planning to engage in, individual and/or couples therapy following the intensive
This intensive may not be appropriate if there is ongoing deception, untreated addiction, active abuse, or an unwillingness to engage honestly.
What Makes This Intensive Different
Affair and betrayal trauma is an attachment injury—not a communication problem or a lack of effort. This weekend is designed around how the nervous system processes betrayal and what actually allows trust to be rebuilt safely.
Highly structured to prevent emotional flooding
Therapist-guided disclosure and processing to reduce secondary trauma
Individual and joint work to support both partners
Attachment-based, trauma-informed, and regulation-focused
Emphasis on accountability, empathy, and repair—not blame or forced forgiveness
Every element of the weekend is intentional. Nothing is rushed. Nothing is left uncontained.
Affair and betrayal trauma is an attachment injury—not a communication problem or a lack of effort. This weekend is designed around how the nervous system processes betrayal and what actually allows trust to be rebuilt safely.
- Highly structured to prevent emotional flooding
- Therapist-guided disclosure and processing to reduce secondary trauma
- Individual and joint work to support both partners
- Attachment-based, trauma-informed, and regulation-focused
- Emphasis on accountability, empathy, and repair—not blame or forced forgiveness
Every element of the weekend is
intentional. Nothing is rushed.
Nothing is left uncontained.
What You’ll Work Through
Over the course of two full days, couples will:
Understand betrayal trauma and normalize common responses
Establish emotional and nervous-system safety
Give voice to the impact of the betrayal—without unnecessary or retraumatizing detail
Prepare for and engage in a structured discovery conversation
Begin meaningful accountability and remorse work
Experience guided attachment repair conversations
Develop a shared narrative that replaces secrecy with truth
Create realistic plans for boundaries, transparency, and trust moving forward
Leave with clear next steps for continued therapy and integration
What Couples Leave With
Couples often leave this weekend with:
Reduced emotional chaos and volatility
A clearer understanding of what happened and why it hurt so deeply
A felt experience of being heard—not just talked to
Early trust-repair moments grounded in emotional responsiveness
Tools for managing triggers, questions, and rupture after the weekend
A framework for continuing the work in individual and couples therapy
Structure & Safety
This is a full-day Saturday and Sunday intensive that includes:
Carefully paced therapeutic sessions
Built-in breaks and nervous system regulation
Clear guidance for evenings and between sessions
Individual and joint therapeutic work
Ongoing containment to reduce overwhelm
Emotional safety is prioritized throughout the weekend.
Consultation Required
Because of the intensity and clinical nature of this work, all couples must complete a consultation prior to scheduling.
A consultation helps determine readiness, fit, and timing—and ensures this intensive is ethical and supportive for your specific situation.
What the Weekend
Looks Like
Before reviewing the schedule, it’s important to understand how this weekend is designed. Deep healing requires both emotional presence and nervous-system regulation. We move carefully—not frantically—so that meaningful work can happen without overwhelming you.
Unlike traditional weekly therapy, where sessions often end just as emotions surface, an intensive provides the space to go deep and leave each day feeling stabilized. The schedule acts as a container—not a pressure cooker—allowing flexibility while maintaining safety, pacing, and intention.
Each day blends structured clinical interventions with body-based practices, reflection, and guided support so your nervous system is supported while healing work unfolds.
PRICING
Affair Recovery Weekend Intensive
You want a powerful, contained reset and a strong foundation for healing without extended aftercare. This option works well alongside ongoing or upcoming couples therapy.
$
3,500
per couple
- Full weekend intensive led by Betcy Aley
- One hour individual assessment online or inperson within one -two weeks of the weekend.
- Two 80-minute somatic release massages
- Two Urban Meditation classes
Deep Dive + Concierge Aftercare
Betrayal has significantly impacted your nervous system, attachment patterns, or daily functioning and you want deeper processing with strong continuity of care.
$
5,940
per couple
- Includes everything in Package 1, plus:
- Two betrayal-trauma-trained clinicians working together throughout the weekend
- Expanded EMDR/EMI trauma processing
- Two private and personalized yin yoga sessions
- Two hours of individual therapy the Friday prior
- One-hour individual follow-up session within one week
- Access to 15-minute coaching calls for two weeks post-intensive
Which Level of Support Is Right for You Right Now?
Answer each question honestly. There are no “wrong” answers—only information.
For each statement, choose the option that fits most of the time.
1. Current Contact With the Affair Partner
• A. The affair has ended and outside contact has stopped
• B. Contact has not fully ended, or boundaries are inconsistent
2. Emotional Reactivity
• A. Emotions run high but can be slowed with structure and guidance
• B. Emotions escalate quickly or feel hard to regulate
3. Nature of the Disclosure
• A. The disclosure is painful but feels largely complete
• B. Disclosure includes sex and/or pornography addiction
4. Clarity About the Relationship
• A. We want to explore repair, even if we feel uncertain
• B. One or both of us are actively unsure about staying or leaving
5. Capacity for Focused Work
• A. We can tolerate focused, time-limited work without ongoing support
• B. We need continued guidance and containment.
6. Stability Outside the Intensive
• A. Daily life feels shaky but manageable with short-term support
• B. Triggers, conflict, or withdrawal repeatedly disrupt daily functioning
Your Results
Mostly A Responses
Affair Recovery Weekend Intensive
You’re likely in a place where focused, contained intervention can make a meaningful difference.
This weekend intensive is designed to:
• Slow reactivity and stabilize betrayal trauma
• Create emotional safety and structure
• Help couples begin repair without pressure or overwhelm
• Clarify next steps without forcing long-term decisions
This option is best when the affair has ended and both partners can pause outside distractions to focus on repair.
Mostly B Responses
Deep Dive + Concierge Aftercare
Your situation likely requires deeper containment and more individual therapeutic support. With the support of two specialized therapists, each partner has space to work individually and go deeper into clarity, before coming together to establish shared ground and begin honest, contained conversations.
The Deep Dive + Concierge Aftercare is designed for:
• High reactivity or emotional flooding
• Sex and/or pornography addiction disclosures
• Ongoing ambivalence about staying or leaving
• Continued involvement with the affair partner
• Couples who need help maintaining safety and finding clarity
Schedule a Consultation for Deep Dive Care
If Your Answers Are Split
That’s common—and completely okay.
A brief consult can help determine the most supportive starting point.
Cancellation Policy *
All payments are due at the time of registration. As our weekends are carefully designed for each couple and spaces are limited, we are unable to offer refunds. We deeply appreciate your commitment and look forward to holding a safe, transformative space for you during this time. In the event that, following the assessment sessions, we deem it inappropriate to continue on, you will receive a full refund minus $500 for clinical hours and administration fees.
The Schedule
Affair Recovery Weekend Intensive
SATURDAY — Stabilize, Contain, Understand
8:30–9:00 | Arrival & Grounding
Light breakfast and informal settling
Nervous system regulation, orientation, safety agreements
Goal: Reduce anxiety and establish emotional safety
9:00–10:30 | Framing the Intensive
Understanding betrayal as an attachment injury
Clear goals and expectations for the weekend
Agreements around pacing, honesty, and care
Goal: Normalize reactions and reduce shame
10:30–10:45 | Break
10:45–12:30 | Impact Session (Injured Partner-Led)
Injured partner shares impact
Focus on emotional meaning and attachment wounds
The therapist helps translate pain into attachment language
Goal: Injured partner feels seen; betraying partner practices non-defensive listening
12:30–1:30 | Lunch & Individual Movement
No processing during lunch
Gentle nervous system regulation
Goal: Emotional digestion and stabilization
1:30–3:00 | Individual Sessions
Injured partner works with therapist to formulate questions in a way that reduces secondary trauma
The betrayed partner receives a somatic release massage with a licensed massage therapist
Goal: Preparation for shared narrative and disclosure
3:00–3:15 | Break
3:15–4:15 | Accountability & Remorse Work
What true accountability looks like
Empathy-building exercises
Guided apology framework (never forced)
Goal: Begin restoring trust through emotional responsiveness
4:15–4:30 | Regulation & Closing Ritual
Clear guidance for Saturday evening
Safety plan for between-session time
Goal: Prevent emotional flooding overnight
4:30–6:00 | Urban Meditation Field Trip
One pre-booked mindfulness class
Goal: Integration and nervous system settling
SUNDAY — Repair, Reconnect, Rebuild
9:00–9:30 | Re-Grounding & Check-In
Emotional check-in and safety review
Goal: Stabilize before deeper work
9:30–11:00 | Disclosure Preparation
Betraying partner prepares disclosure with therapist
Injured partner receives somatic release massage
Goal: Support an honest, contained, non-retraumatizing disclosure
11:00–11:15 | Break
11:15–12:45 | Shared Narrative
Disclosure statement shared
Processing and attunement support
Goal: Establish shared truth and emotional safety
12:45–1:45 | Lunch & Individual Movement
1:45–3:15 | Attachment Repair OR Trauma Processing
EFT-style attachment repair dialogue or
EMDR/EMI trauma processing as clinically appropriate
Goal: Reduce emotional charge and create corrective emotional experiences
3:15–3:30 | Break
3:30–4:45 | Integration & Future Planning
Transparency vs. policing
Boundaries and trust moving forward
Rupture-repair plans
Weekly rituals of connection
Integration with ongoing therapy
Goal: Turn insight into sustainable change
4:45–5:30 | Closing & Takeaways
Each partner names what they’re taking forward
Closing ritual
Goal: Seal the work emotionally and practically
Is This Weekend Right for Us?
You may be a good fit if most of the following are true:
We are dealing with the impact of betrayal and feel stuck or overwhelmed
Conversations escalate, shut down, or leave one of us feeling unheard
The injured partner is carrying intense pain or hypervigilance
The betraying partner is willing to take accountability without defensiveness
We want guidance that reduces harm rather than causes more
We are open to trauma-informed, attachment-based work
We can commit to two full days of focused work
We are willing to continue therapy afterward
If you answered “yes” to most of these, a consultation can help determine readiness and fit.
Why This Work
Affair recovery done without trauma-informed structure can deepen injury and delay healing. This intensive condenses months of specialized work into a focused, guided intervention designed to unblock therapy and support real repair.
This is not a replacement for therapy—it prepares you to use it effectively.
No matter where you are in your relationship, this weekend meets you with compassion and practical support.
Schedule a confidential consultation
To explore whether this intensive is an ethical and supportive next step for your situation.